What We Do Before We See A Client - How We Prepare As a Couple on the Road.

Most people assume that healing work starts when the client sits down in front of you.

For us, it starts days before. Sometimes a week before. Sometimes in a hotel room at 6am with two cups of tea and no agenda except to be honest with each other about where we're at.

Amber and I travel together to almost everything now. Not because it's efficient — it usually isn't — but because we discovered early on that when we separate the work from the relationship, certain things don't feel right. We are better healers when we can support each other. We are better in business when we're connected to something deeper than the business. The road teaches you that quickly.

Here's what our preparation actually looks like.

The night before anything significant, we get ready for the day to come.

Not a planning session. Not a review of the schedule. An actual conversation about how we're both feeling going into the next day. What Amber and I are both sensing about the energy in the city we're in. What we maybe carrying from the sessions we've already held that week. What needs to be cleared or released before we can be of any use to someone else. If you've ever tried to pour from an empty cup, you know why this matters. 

To help us clear or connect, we will do a grounding practice in the morning. It takes about twenty minutes and it is non-negotiable, the same way some people won't skip coffee. If we skip it, we can feel the difference in our sessions. It's a Māori-influenced practice we've built over years — it connects us to the land we're on, acknowledges the tūpuna (ancestors) of that place, and settles whatever we carried into the day from the day before. When we're travelling, we do this in whatever natural space is available. Large open spaces with green grasses or trees, public parks, beaches, riversides, forests anywhere that truly feels like being in nature. The location doesn't matter. The intention does.

Then we get all our tools ready. Crystals, Cards, Bracelets of protection, usually laid out in a specific way, a meditation, a few minutes of silence before any conversation — including conversation with one another. Helps us prepare and get connected. We have breakfast, then cleanse with Palo Santo a sacred wood or Frankincense. Play some nice music and ease our way into get ready. 

Between sessions on a long day, we find each other.

This is something we learned the hard way. In the early days of doing this work publicly, we'd both get swallowed by back-to-back readings and workshops and conversations. By the afternoon we'd be running on fumes and wondering why our later sessions felt heavier than our morning ones. Now we build in fifteen minutes mid-event to sit together. No phones. No debrief. Just proximity. 

I think this is what people don't see when they look at two people who do this kind of work together. They see the performance of it — the readings, the sessions, the event presence. They don't see the discipline underneath. The preparation. The tending to each other so that both of us can show up fully for someone who needs it.

That's the work before the work.

And honestly? It's become one of my favourite parts of what we do.

— KB

If you're curious about what a session with KB looks like, start at kebrascaking.com. If you want to explore Amber's work, she's at glowbyamber.com. And if you want to hear us talk about the intersection of this world and the business world we also live in, we go live every Thursday on #creativetalkpodcast